Medical Pictures
Here is the link to the medical pictures. WARNING: THESE PICTURES ARE GRPAHIC. DO NOT CLICK ON THE LINK IF YOU HAVE A WEAK STOMACH AND ARE BOTHERED BY BLOOD OR GORE.
Ok, so this post was not so easy. I guess that is because it all happened slowly, over thirty surgeries slowly, five and a half years slowly. I wasn’t awake during the pictures taken in surgery (obviously), and the x-rays of my neck were taken after I asked to be knocked out, but I was aware during the rest of it. Every time they took down my dressings and I looked at my hands, I was aware. When the skin grafts failed, I was aware. When my hands were sewn into my hips for three and a half weeks, I was aware.
I really don’t have much to add. The pictures speak for themselves and if you click on them they all have descriptions. There is also more information in the medical sections of my Fire links in the sidebar if you want the in depth story.
D.B. Echo asked me about the other three people injured in the fire. The guy who lived across the hall from me broke his leg (in several places I think). The guy who lived below me dislocated his shoulder. Both were injured by jumping out their windows but recovered just fine from their injuries. The other person injured in the fire did not fair so well. Compared to her, what I have been through is a fucking cakewalk. She has had close to sixty surgeries.
This woman is the same age as I am. She did not even live in the building. She was spending one night with her childhood sweetheart who lived in the building, and they were leaving to go home the next day to spend Christmas with their families. He was the person who was killed in the fire. He died due to smoke inhalation. The firefighters found her by literally tripping over her. She was burned over sixty percent of her body. She lost a good deal of the use of her arms and had to have both of her legs amputated just above the knees. She was kept in a drug induced coma until right before I was released from the hospital (I was in the hospital for two months initially).
While our families got to be friends when we were both staying in the hospital (especially our Moms), I’ve only spoken to her once or twice. The last thing I heard about her (and this was years ago) was that she was in graduate school and was teaching the “handicapped” how to ski. I got most of my information about her through my doctor. I know her story is far more inspiring than mine. I do not know if she has had any problems with mental illness (I’m sure losing your boyfriend, not to mention your legs, has to be depressing), but from everything that I’ve heard she is doing well and has handled the whole thing beautifully.
My hands get a little charred and I am still trying to get it together almost thirteen years later.
Edit: I don't mean it to sound like I compare myself to her all of the time, I don't. It's just that what she has been through blows my mind.
Ok, so this post was not so easy. I guess that is because it all happened slowly, over thirty surgeries slowly, five and a half years slowly. I wasn’t awake during the pictures taken in surgery (obviously), and the x-rays of my neck were taken after I asked to be knocked out, but I was aware during the rest of it. Every time they took down my dressings and I looked at my hands, I was aware. When the skin grafts failed, I was aware. When my hands were sewn into my hips for three and a half weeks, I was aware.
I really don’t have much to add. The pictures speak for themselves and if you click on them they all have descriptions. There is also more information in the medical sections of my Fire links in the sidebar if you want the in depth story.
D.B. Echo asked me about the other three people injured in the fire. The guy who lived across the hall from me broke his leg (in several places I think). The guy who lived below me dislocated his shoulder. Both were injured by jumping out their windows but recovered just fine from their injuries. The other person injured in the fire did not fair so well. Compared to her, what I have been through is a fucking cakewalk. She has had close to sixty surgeries.
This woman is the same age as I am. She did not even live in the building. She was spending one night with her childhood sweetheart who lived in the building, and they were leaving to go home the next day to spend Christmas with their families. He was the person who was killed in the fire. He died due to smoke inhalation. The firefighters found her by literally tripping over her. She was burned over sixty percent of her body. She lost a good deal of the use of her arms and had to have both of her legs amputated just above the knees. She was kept in a drug induced coma until right before I was released from the hospital (I was in the hospital for two months initially).
While our families got to be friends when we were both staying in the hospital (especially our Moms), I’ve only spoken to her once or twice. The last thing I heard about her (and this was years ago) was that she was in graduate school and was teaching the “handicapped” how to ski. I got most of my information about her through my doctor. I know her story is far more inspiring than mine. I do not know if she has had any problems with mental illness (I’m sure losing your boyfriend, not to mention your legs, has to be depressing), but from everything that I’ve heard she is doing well and has handled the whole thing beautifully.
My hands get a little charred and I am still trying to get it together almost thirteen years later.
Edit: I don't mean it to sound like I compare myself to her all of the time, I don't. It's just that what she has been through blows my mind.





























21 Comments:
OMG Whim. Of COURSE you're still trying to get it together!!!! You were mutilated, how anybody can ever get it all together is beyond me. And don't compare yourself. You're not her, she's not you (well, duh), you've both would have had challenges in life, each different from each other. And if it's not THIS, it'd be something different. We're not all created the same (equal, yes, the same, no, and that's NOT just men & women), and we shouldn't all expect to respond & feel & deal the same. Don't beat yourself up, it'll do her no good, and it won't do you any good either.
I could only view one of the pics. I'm sorry. I wish I could take more, being able to see what you've gone through. My stomach wouldn't handle it though.
I really hope that posting these pictures & these stories of what you've been through helps you purge lingering (emotional and mental) pain, and helps you continue to move on with your life. You seem to be doing good so far. Much love, sweety.
Maybe you've found the problem. You think she did well, and you did not?
Well, you DID do well. Everyone's pain is not borne of the same well of sorrow. Being human, we all look at your catastrophe from our own place. None of us can know what that night took from you or why the other girl did what she did with it.
But what I know from your posts- that you cannot argue- is that you are a strong, powerful, vibrant human being.
I can't know what it is to miss the nuances of ones hands, to ache in places I didn't know existed~ but I do now know how much loss those of us who've come to know you would suffer without you.
There have been several terrible fires in the city lately, and without you, I wouldn't have noticed. Or sent my thoughts their way.
Take a quiet, solemn look~Whim.
There is great reason to respect who you are.
Hi Whim -- again, I don't know how to comment on this. Anything I type ends up deleted because it seems trite, or most likely said 1000 times before I said it.
I have so much respect for you. Goddamn, girl, how you got through that, I have no earthly idea. No human being should have to try.
Thank you, truly, for sharing so much of this.
You have such an interesting blog.
Wow, you have certainly been through some stuff!
I hope you don't mind but I have added a link on my blog -
http://www.disabilityblog.org
Take good care of yourself.
Philip :-)
OMG, may hands are weak from looking at those photos. I know they are just photos but they have a person attached to them.
I'm speechless once again.
One foot in front of the other, keep trucking my friend.
When you say your hands "got a little charred"...well, this whole event in your life was way more than that. You were terrified. You were injured in a way that took all those surgeries to heal. Mentally and emotionally, the toll is great. I admire your courage and the courage of the others - no matter who great or small their injuries may seem.
Those "charred" hands are typing some great words. You know the rest.
Your hand doctor did good.
The burning to the knuckles, though, was... wow.
whimsy,
you are an amazingly strong woman. everybody is different.
xoxoxox
Damn. That is terrible. I have a strong enough stomach for medical things, but it was a little much for me! As I looked at them, I thought-- your poor, poor mother. You know I am so devastated for you, but I've had to sit by as a family member enough that I can imagine how hard it was for your family and friends. Wow- a no win situation all around. I know, the understatement of the century.
A
Once again, you continue to amaze me. Love your courage and determination...
Whim, you are truly inspirational. as much as you think it could have been worse, which does help with coping, what you have endured and how you did so is incredible. and you can't put that down because someone else may have been through more.
thank you for sharing
*hugs*
Ouch.
Actually i saw some of the pics from your link you gave in the past - the one where you were hanging.
Anyway... I can't bear to look at the pics. They are far more scary than any horror movie.
It must be because it is real.
Good lord you are amazing.
The pictures are horrifying...but again, because of your amazing descriptive skills, I had already seen them in my mind's eye.
Please forgive me that I continue to use you as a goad and a whip whenever I start to feel sorry for myself. Nothing I have ever endured can compare to what you have been through. I know that, given your druthers, you would not be in a position to serve such a purpose...but there you are.
I must've left these quotes for you a bunch of times already, but as a fellow browncoat, I hope it helps.
"We've done the impossible and that makes us mighty!"
"When you can't run any more, you crawl and when you can't crawl wel. . . you know the rest."
I know how you feel about the 'comparison' because the injuries to my hands are so insignificant compared to what you have gone through. I looked at your pictures days ago and have not been able to comment because it just tore me up so much to see (and imagine) all the unspeakable hell you've endured. We all heal at our own rate - your healing is your own, there is no rule-book here.
When I first read your blog (and I went back and read all the archived posts the day I discovered it) I thought you were a compelling writer with amazing strength and an important story to tell. As I've read along with your blog over the past year, I've only had that initial impression reinforced.
You are so wonderfully funny, open, and giving - do not ever sell yourself short on how much you have to offer this world or how much you have already given. You truly are an inspiration, Whim. I am so proud to know you.
Dear Whimsy and Jo,
What a privilege it has been to read this post. Bless you both for your inner strength and courage and your sheer will to heal.
There is so much power here.
Bless you both and all who go through this experience.
David
I can't believe what a great job they did on your hands...after all that...and your hips..wow...
what you went through...
sheesh.
Hi there, I hopped over from David McMahon's blog, and am sure glad I did.
What a testimony to the power of the human spirit.
You are amazing.
I have a weak stomach but I had to look. Not out of morbid curiosity but it would help me know you. I am amazed at your strength and your courage. You are the strongest person I have ever met. I honestly don't know if I could endure what you went through. You are what I long to be.... one tough lady.
ahh whim im so sorry, i know it may seem like she is doing better but i bet she struggles just as much as you do...
you really shouldn't compare though everyones pain is there own and shouldn't be measured or weighed.
that looks so very painful and i admire the courage it took to do this post and share those pics.
hugs
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